I Love You...

Why is saying “I love you” sometimes so complicated? From my perspective, I think that what makes it complicated is what it makes us feel as individuals. “I love you” was seen as a symbol of vulnerability, those who were able to show their emotions were at times marginalized, and love was taken, for a long time, as a weakness.

How much depth in such a simple topic! But that's how it is. By saying “I love you” we expose our feelings. We show that we care and that it can affect us. In every superhero, drama, or crime movie whenever there is “revenge” it is directed towards the people they love. We care so much that it becomes counterproductive. Loving exposes ourselves to the possibility of pain.

Whoa...Wowwww! Did you read that? Hahahaha! Well, it's totally true...It's always good to take care of ourselves and choosing to say “I love you” under the right conditions (when it comes to a sentimental relationship other than family). But how do you hold yourself back from saying I love you to your parents or siblings? I understand that many people have different ways to educate. Some parents are much stricter than others and expressing love verbally is something that simply doesn't happen and, when it does, there is a sense of embarrassment in the atmosphere.

I insist, in this blog I express my perspective and I believe that saying I love you should not be something negative (unless you don't feel it and use it disingenuously). How liberating it is to say I love you to your family or loved ones as something normal, ordinary, as something that simply exists. Yes, there are different ways of expressing love, but hearing it and having it aligned with our actions, makes it more real. Remember that if you repeat something many times, it remains engraved in your memory and there is nothing better than repeating how beautiful we feel.

As for relationships I see it a little differently, I have always been one of those people who give all of themselves, love with madness and without brakes, but I learned that it is important to maintain emotional control as a protection. When we love, we expose our strengths and weaknesses, we give everything we are to the other person trusting that they will never betray us, but we never know what can happen. That is why I know and understand that love makes us vulnerable, and pain is a possibility. I think in this kind of love it is very important to be cautious and go slowly until we really feel that we are in a safe and healthy environment to be able to say I love you until we explode.

I will never close myself or refuse to love, but I will learn from what the life of love must teach me. Yes, there is the possibility to have a happy and healthy love, a love that has the disposition to be better and to learn. One of the most important things in a relationship is admiration, I believe that admiration makes us feel valued. It's not about idolizing the other person; it's about recognizing what makes him or her unique and special.

Simple details and simple phrases that can change the perspective in a relationship. Avoid unhealthy ‘need’ing and focus on ‘want’ing them in your life. Beware of separation anxiety. Understand and analyze that being apart doesn't mean not being together. Become a team and work as such. Minimize the importance of arguing, but do not ignore feelings involved. Empathy, respect, and tolerance. Learn to listen and internalize, learn to negotiate, and compromise. Love is always in motion.

Another form of love is self-love, I always talk about it on my Instagram, and I had to lose myself to be able to recover me. When I did I understood how important it is to be able to love myself. Yes, you have to start with you. Be healthy with yourself and in a good relationship with your inner self to allow for the clarity to love someone else. Being full of insecurities and conflicts inside only attracts the same around you. It is not easy to look inside and meet those demons, but once you make peace with yourself, you understand that you couldn't bring peace into your life if you didn't have it inside you first.

You also should say I love you to the mirror. You should hug and kiss yourself. And you should thank God for who you are and who you have become. Don't ignore it… Listen to all that your inner voice has to say. The more you avoid, the more the noise will build up inside. Connect with you and learn what is best for you.

You will not regret saying how much you love. Although it may not be reciprocated or accepted, expressing yourself is always a form of liberation, and once you say it, you will feel good about it because you were able to do it.

Key